In nowadays sociaty we meet certain models and guidelines that everyone expects us to meet and follow. We are being put in front of skinny and well build models making us believe that this is what everybody should look like, that this is the body we all should seek and work for. But is that so, really?
In this madness of rushing after the perfection type we tend to forget being ourselves. Hmm... forget? Or maybe we're forced to abandone the true us to meet the ridiculous expectations that some trendsetter thought of one lazy night over a second or third bottle of Chardonnay? Is it actually oru choice to focus on chasing the unrealistic combination of perfect looks and perfect personality or is it the society putting chains on our wrists saying 'be whoever you want to be as long s it fits our standards'?
It seems irrational to blindly follow the set up trends without questioning them. However, we still do that. We, consciously, allow or freedom to be limited by the social expectations and standards only to fit in and be able to develop new relationships. Subconsciously we might believe that if we were our true selves we would not have friends like we do now. But is it a real friendship if you only pretend to be somebody and are't the person you actually are?
In any relationship there tends to be a bit of a lie hidden somewher under the rug. We all have our issues and our badgage, that's normal, but we all say there's nothing wrong with us or there's nothing in our past that the other person should know about. As a result we get into deep and serious relationships and friendships building them on a pile of little lies that we don't want to or don't know how to explain. Bbut that's not how it's supposed to be, is it?
Real friendship and real relationship is believed to be based on the mutual understanding and acceptance, no matter the flaws. Everyone has a certain set of traits that they're not particularly proud of but that's how you're ment to recognize the true friend - they don't judge, they approve and learn to deal with it. What kind of a friendship would that be if the other person would only know the 'I wish I was like that' version of you not the actual one? A fake one?
Same goes to relationships it's not about meeting Mr or Mrs Perfect - that I don't believe in at all, I find it quite bizzare that some people actually think that their perfection standards are going to be met by just one person; not only that, but also the fact that perfection, from a long distance perspective, is simply boring. No one wishes to have a long calm and stable life with one person - people who say they do always get bored after a whie and subconsciously find a problem that potentially would never exist if only their life wasn't close to their standards of perfection. A little bit of drama and some bumps on the road are vital to keep the relationship healthy and alive.
But coming back to the main though, building a relationshi based on lies making us into someone the other person would like us to be never works and is a great start to a tragic end of 'and they did NOT live happily ever after'. After all, it's not really about finding someone who'd fit you prefectly or someone who'd be exactly what you wanted - it's about finding someone whomyou'd be able to stand and would feel comfortable around even when you're both old and wrinkly.
Same goes for frindships - it's not about having people who you always see eye to eye around you, it's about having those who you know would pat you on the back when you're upset and give you a hand when you fall, even if it's for the same reason, forth time in a row; they're not going to judge, their going to give you their opinion and suport your decision even if they find it wrong.
In this madness of rushing after the perfection type we tend to forget being ourselves. Hmm... forget? Or maybe we're forced to abandone the true us to meet the ridiculous expectations that some trendsetter thought of one lazy night over a second or third bottle of Chardonnay? Is it actually oru choice to focus on chasing the unrealistic combination of perfect looks and perfect personality or is it the society putting chains on our wrists saying 'be whoever you want to be as long s it fits our standards'?
It seems irrational to blindly follow the set up trends without questioning them. However, we still do that. We, consciously, allow or freedom to be limited by the social expectations and standards only to fit in and be able to develop new relationships. Subconsciously we might believe that if we were our true selves we would not have friends like we do now. But is it a real friendship if you only pretend to be somebody and are't the person you actually are?
In any relationship there tends to be a bit of a lie hidden somewher under the rug. We all have our issues and our badgage, that's normal, but we all say there's nothing wrong with us or there's nothing in our past that the other person should know about. As a result we get into deep and serious relationships and friendships building them on a pile of little lies that we don't want to or don't know how to explain. Bbut that's not how it's supposed to be, is it?
Real friendship and real relationship is believed to be based on the mutual understanding and acceptance, no matter the flaws. Everyone has a certain set of traits that they're not particularly proud of but that's how you're ment to recognize the true friend - they don't judge, they approve and learn to deal with it. What kind of a friendship would that be if the other person would only know the 'I wish I was like that' version of you not the actual one? A fake one?
Same goes to relationships it's not about meeting Mr or Mrs Perfect - that I don't believe in at all, I find it quite bizzare that some people actually think that their perfection standards are going to be met by just one person; not only that, but also the fact that perfection, from a long distance perspective, is simply boring. No one wishes to have a long calm and stable life with one person - people who say they do always get bored after a whie and subconsciously find a problem that potentially would never exist if only their life wasn't close to their standards of perfection. A little bit of drama and some bumps on the road are vital to keep the relationship healthy and alive.
But coming back to the main though, building a relationshi based on lies making us into someone the other person would like us to be never works and is a great start to a tragic end of 'and they did NOT live happily ever after'. After all, it's not really about finding someone who'd fit you prefectly or someone who'd be exactly what you wanted - it's about finding someone whomyou'd be able to stand and would feel comfortable around even when you're both old and wrinkly.
Same goes for frindships - it's not about having people who you always see eye to eye around you, it's about having those who you know would pat you on the back when you're upset and give you a hand when you fall, even if it's for the same reason, forth time in a row; they're not going to judge, their going to give you their opinion and suport your decision even if they find it wrong.