It is said that people can change but can they really? Sometimes we don't see a friend for a long time and a meeting after such break can be quite shocking. What happened that they've changed so much? They're like completely different people. The question is if the change is positive and is it really them that seem to be odd or us?
One's personality is definitely defined greatly by the enviornment, people mostly. We are born and grow up, we develop a large amount of traits and we shape our personality. But some of the personality aspects are initial, they only emerge with time. Is it possible then to change something that is clunched tightly to our mind; the core of our nature?
It is rather doubtful for a subtel and very emotional person to become a ruthless villain and, on the other hand, for a malicious scoundrel to change into a delicate nature admirer. At least that's what I reckon. So, if someone hurt us in the past and did it fully consciously, can we really believe they've changed so much that they wouldn't do it again?
Disappointment surely creates doubt and damages trust. Even if it is visible that the person has grown up, changed grately and established, or perhaps developed, some traits that makes them a better human being, can the broken trust be restored, rebuilt even?
We certainly work on our personalities our whole lives but I think there are some basic elements, behaviours and habits that simply cannot be changed. They define who we are and even if we wanted to we are unable to eradicate them. Should we then place our trust in someone who has caused so much trouble and pain in our lives just because they might have changed? What if the disappointment comes along again? Is it worth risking?
That's deffinitely a hazardous issue. It is said that you'll never now if you don't try. But you already have, so should you one more time? I believe it depends also on how much the person has actually changed and if the traits that caused the terrible memories and experiences are the still the leading ones.
What do you think? Can people change? Or rather, how much different can one become? Is taking a step forward worth trying and risking a huge loss in the same game? Should we step twice in the same river?
One's personality is definitely defined greatly by the enviornment, people mostly. We are born and grow up, we develop a large amount of traits and we shape our personality. But some of the personality aspects are initial, they only emerge with time. Is it possible then to change something that is clunched tightly to our mind; the core of our nature?
It is rather doubtful for a subtel and very emotional person to become a ruthless villain and, on the other hand, for a malicious scoundrel to change into a delicate nature admirer. At least that's what I reckon. So, if someone hurt us in the past and did it fully consciously, can we really believe they've changed so much that they wouldn't do it again?
Disappointment surely creates doubt and damages trust. Even if it is visible that the person has grown up, changed grately and established, or perhaps developed, some traits that makes them a better human being, can the broken trust be restored, rebuilt even?
We certainly work on our personalities our whole lives but I think there are some basic elements, behaviours and habits that simply cannot be changed. They define who we are and even if we wanted to we are unable to eradicate them. Should we then place our trust in someone who has caused so much trouble and pain in our lives just because they might have changed? What if the disappointment comes along again? Is it worth risking?
That's deffinitely a hazardous issue. It is said that you'll never now if you don't try. But you already have, so should you one more time? I believe it depends also on how much the person has actually changed and if the traits that caused the terrible memories and experiences are the still the leading ones.
What do you think? Can people change? Or rather, how much different can one become? Is taking a step forward worth trying and risking a huge loss in the same game? Should we step twice in the same river?